5 Mistakes People Make When the Set Goals

Wouldn't it be helpful to know what mistakes to avoid when setting goals? I learned this recently and it was EYE OPENING for me. I thought I'd share it with you.

Ponder this...

"If you set a goal and didn't achieve it, you FAILED when you SET the goal."

Hmmmm, makes you think about the process...

5 Mistakes When Setting Goals

1) Setting Goals too Small

--if you do this, you will never GROW. Most people don't realize that the bigger the goal they set, the better - because it will get you to STRETCH. You will FAIL way more often than you succeed in working towards your goal, just know that is part of the process. The challenge with small goals is that you won't pay the price if the goal isn't BIG enough. If the REWARD isn't big enough, you will revert back into safety, not forward into GROWTH.

2) You Set a Goal Based on What you Think You Can Do
--You can't set goals based on what you think you can do. If you have been there in your mind, you can go there in reality. God doesn't put ideas into your head that you can't make a reality. Stop thinking about what you think you can do and get out of your comfort zone

3) You Set Goals Only if You Know How to Do it.

--At best you are going to guess as you go, you have no idea HOW you are going to accomplish a goal. You will fail miserably at times, and wonder if you can make it happen. Persevere. Keep going. Fail forward. That is just part of the process. Spend more time on WHAT you want, keep that in front of you on a DAILY basis, and less time on the HOW. The how will come, you will try things, some will work, some won't. Keep going. Keep focused on WHAT you want, and the end result. Accept failure as part of the process! Talk about why you CAN do something. Truth is NOT in appearance. Only focus on why you CAN and WILL achieve your goal, don't talk about why you can't, that NEVER helps you move forward. EXPAND YOUR AWARENESS. As HOW CAN I? Assume anything is possible. It is.

4) You Question Your Worthiness to Have it.

--when you have a clear understanding of WHO you are and WHOSE you are, you would realize that you deserve it all. I am not one to throw my beliefs on others, but I hope you will respect my beliefs as I respect yours. I believe we are all children of God, and we were meant to live a life of abundance in all areas and to do the best we can with what we were given, and to leave the world a better place. With that in mind, why not think bigger and realize you DO deserve more. If you' going to grow, there is a price you are going to have to pay. The best part is, you don't pay any more of a price to think BIGGER than what you are thinking now. You deserve it all. We are spiritual beings with an intellectual mind, living in a meat suit. The problem is, most people spend too much time focusing on the meat suit.

5) You think the Reason you Set the Goal is to Get the Goal

--the purpose of a goal is who you need to become in order to achieve the goal, not the goal itself. When you stretch to reach a goal, and you achieve it, what is more rewarding? Who you became in the process, or the actual goal? Donald Trump became a billionaire, and then lost it all. Because he had grown as a person, when he lost it, he was able to get it all back even quicker. Because of WHO he was and what he believed. The question is, who do you need to become in order to reach your goal? We are all in the process of becoming and growing. If I were the statue David, Michelangelo would still be chipping away..... become your own masterpiece.


I hope this opened your eyes as much as it did mine when I learned it!

Now, go out and make it happen!

This information was recently shared by my good friend, Adam Packard. It is reprinted with his permission.

Teresa Morgan is Running her Butt Off for Anal Cancer

One of my very best friends is Teresa Morgan. There's a lot to know about her - she's an accomplished attorney, my business partner in SendOutCards, a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a grandmother and a great friend to Joanne Duke. Joanne is one of Teresa's closest friends from high school.

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Joanne has anal cancer. So did Farrah Fawcett. This is not a sexy disease that you hear about often. As a result, money for research is critical if we are ever going to cure this killer.

About a year ago, Teresa thought it would be a great idea to walk the New York Marathon as a way to raise money and awareness for anal cancer. She convinced a group of us we should all do this. Well the New York Marathon is so popular, you can't just sign up. You have to sign up and get in a lottery. Well, out of the lottery, Teresa was the only one from our group that was picked!

Teresa was inspired - she's not just walking the New York Marathon, she's running. We walked our first half marathon in March 2011 when we entered the Orange Blossom Half Marathon in Tavares, Florida. Well, Teresa was right out there, running right from the start. Another friend, Missy Lee, who has been Teresa's running buddy and trainer throughout this event, was right along side her. Debbie Roser and I stuck to the original plan and walked - we came in dead last.

We haven't been able to stop Teresa since. She's committed to running in the New York Marathon and finishing. To "Finish is to Win" as they say in endurance horseback riding. I know she will!

What we need is your support - financially. Not for Teresa, but for anal cancer. Please watch the short video Teresa produced to tell you about her upcoming race.

I would like to challenge all of our attorney friends to give $100 to help support Teresa in this effort. You can donate here!

Thanks for your support!

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Simon Cowell’s Cryogenic Goals Test Limits of Conventional Trust Planning | The Trust Advisor Blog

Well I thought I had done a better job of posting this article. Can you believe that Simon Cowell and Peggy Hoyt got mentioned in the same article? Interesting that he's part of the cryonics movement. I also heard he wanted to leave money for the benefit of his pets?! He and I have more in common than he may know.

Anyway, check out this article on cryonics!

Simon Cowell’s Cryogenic Goals Test Limits of Conventional Trust Planning | The Trust Advisor Blog

Don't Say I Didn't Tell You - How to Get Paid for Being Nice

I think SendOutCards has the best product and the best business opportunity in both the card and gift industry and in the network marketing industry. They've done everything right. They created a product that everyone needs - a great way to reach out in kindness to others through greeting cards and gifts that are easy to send, very affordable and with a system that doesn't let you forget. They've created a business opportunity that is one of the best in the industry. For less than $500 you can have your own business, be your own boss and start making money right away! They pay weekly bonuses and monthly commissions!

I've been a SendOutCards Distributor for more than two years. I've met some wonderful people I would not have met otherwise, I have a whole new set of friends, I've made some extra money and I've touched a lot of people's lives by sending heartfelt cards and gifts. Plus I've been to Salt Lake City twice, Las Vegas and Cancun!

As an attorney, I try and help other attorneys do a better job of building and keeping relationships with their prospects, clients and referral sources. For anyone in a service business, SendOutCards can improve your entire marketing program.

As a business person, I know the value of keeping your name top of mind. What better way than by sending a heartfelt card or gift? You can make awesome picture cards for people they will never forget. It doesn't take a lot of time and it doesn't take a lot of money.

You can become a card sender for $9.80 a month! It's hard for me to believe that someone wouldn't invest $10 in the success of their business. Even if you don't have a business, why wouldn't you spend $10 to be the kind of friend, sibling, aunt/uncle, acquaintance that had a reputation for being nice and sending cards.

This business is just getting started. It will soon be a billion dollar household name. I'll be there - I wish you would be too! Don't say I didn't tell you.

Collegiality - Fact or Fiction?

Here's an article I wrote recently on the topic of collegialty. Some people think I'm talking about congeniality - not the same thing. Collegiality is how people in the same profession work together so that all can succeed. It's based on a mindset of abundance - where there is more than enough for everyone. If the tide is raised, then all ships benefit, that kind of thing.

We all have a responsibility to help the new ones coming along. Somewhere, sometime, hopefully someone gave you a leg up so that you could benefit from their expertise.

Have a great day and thank everybody for everything!

Collegiality - Fact or Fiction?

There's no such thing as a free pet

From time to time (like almost daily, okay, weekly) someone asks me whether I'd be interested in a cat, dog, horse, bird, etc. for "free." Well I'm here to tell you there is no such thing as a free pet. The cost of acquisition may be free but that's where it ends. And now, the ASPCA has published a chart that confirms this point.

So now you may agree, even if you deduct the cost of pet health insurance, in the first year most dogs and cats will cost you more than $1,000. I'm not trying to discourage anyone from the joys of pet ownership - quite the opposite, I'm just suggesting that responsible pet owners understand the costs of pet ownership and they incur these costs willingly and with a commitment for the whole of the pet's lifetime.

If you have multiple pets, obviously the cost goes up accordingly. Understanding the costs of pet ownership is also helpful for planning purposes if you are including your pet as part of your estate plan - perhaps even creating a trust for their benefit.

So next time someone offers you a free pet, consider the costs but also the benefits.

Why Wealth Disappears

This is a particularly well written article about the perils of transferring wealth from one generation to another. The bottom line is it isn't the actual transfer of the wealth but the abilities and stability of the individuals who may be receiving that wealth. This is the concept of wealth reception. How people receive wealth may ultimately determine how that wealth is utilized (or wasted). This concept of wealth reception is particularly important within the context of family businesses, many who do not survive to second and third generations. The heirs are generally not prepared intellectually and emotionally for the responsibilities of continuing the business. Many have absolutely no experience in the family business or in any business. Drug and alcohol abuse issues can also play a major role in how wealth is received and maintained. Estate planning with qualified professionals becomes a necessity if there is to be any hope of preserving family wealth.

Why Wealth Disappears

September is Life Insurance Awareness Month

I received an email today from one of my financial advisor friends advising me and others that this is Life Insurance Awareness Month. I thought this was good information to pass on. Far too often people discount the important role of life insurance in their investment portfolio.

As an estate planning attorney, I see the benefits of life insurance. A loved one has died. If there is no life insurance, the surviving family members may face financial difficulties or even, devastation. Life insurance proceeds, on the other hand, can serve many purposes. One purpose could be as simple as helping to pay for the funeral costs of the deceased. A bigger purpose could be to provide an ongoing source of financial security.

There are formulas for calculating how much life insurance you need. These are often beneficial but one question I always ask is, "Does this feel like enough?" If this was your only source of financial security after the death of your loved one, what would your life look like? Is your goal only to pay off your existing mortgage or debts, or do you want enough to secure your future? If you have children, this can be even more important. Does your surviving spouse have to go back to work and/or hire full time child care in order to continue Your family's existing lifestyle. Do you want your spouse to have to sell everything and move to a different home in order to have enough to survive?

How you answer the question of how much is enough will determine your attitude toward life insurance. Some clients say, "I don't believe in life insurance." I generally respond by asking, "You don't believe it exists or you don't believe it's a good deal?" People who don't believe life insurance is a good deal may not understand how life insurance really works. There are essentially two kinds of life insurance - the kind you buy (permanent insurance) and the kind you rent (term insurance). Term insurance can be a temporary solution to a permanent problem. This doesn't mean I don't think there's a place for term life insurance, I do. It's generally true though that more often than not, term insurance expires and becomes too expensive before a claim is ever paid. For this reason, I suggest everyone, at the earliest age possible, explore the benefits of permanent insurance. Permanent insurance can offer a number of significant benefits.

I don't sell life insurance - haven't had my license now for a number of years. I do appreciate the benefits of life insurance and I'm happy to suggest a respected agent for you to talk to if you have questions.

In honor of Life Insurance Awareness Month, I would suggest you review your existing life insurance and make sure it is sufficient to address your needs. Today is the day, tomorrow may be too late.

Freedom Isn't Free

Today I'm sending out a special thank you to all of our military personnel, first responders, police officers, firefighters - to everyone who makes living in America the best place to live! Thank you for all you do, for all you've done and for all you've yet to do.

Kody Bateman, founder of SendOutCards has produced a video as a tribute to our freedom and those that make it possible.